Becoming Your Highest Self: Why We Must Keep Growing, Even When We Don’t Know How

Becoming Your Highest Self: Why We Must Keep Growing, Even When We Don’t Know How

When my first son was born (this little guy’s daddy), I didn’t know how to be a mom.

I didn’t know how to breastfeed.
Didn’t know how to manage colic.
Didn’t know how to sing someone to sleep.

That first night, he cried off and on for 8 hours.
I sang “You Are My Sunshine” until my voice was ragged and hoarse…
But I got him to sleep.

I bounced and danced and overfed and paced the floor.
I didn’t sleep a wink.
I didn’t ask for help.
I was young and dumb, with something to prove.

Turns out—I was a pretty good mom.
(But trust me—figuring out how to care for a baby wasn’t the hardest part of motherhood.)

We Don’t Know Until We Try

No one hands you a guidebook for the real stuff.
Leadership.
Motherhood.
Love.
Faith.
Resilience.

We really don’t know how to do any of it until we try.

And here’s the thing no one tells you about personal leadership:
It doesn’t begin when you finally feel “ready.”
It begins when you show up anyway.

Life asks us—over and over again—to rise to challenges we feel wildly underprepared for.

We show up.
We do our best.
We practice.

Sometimes we win.
Sometimes we learn.

Every day, we’re asked to be someone’s example.
To carry the weight of responsibility.
To lead with compassion, clarity, and courage—even when we feel like we’re still figuring it out ourselves.

The Truth About Growth

Sometimes, we’re not equipped yet.

We need to heal.
We need to grow.
We need to stretch beyond who we’ve been taught to be—and become who we truly are.

Because one thing is certain:

If you don’t heal…
If you don’t learn…
If you don’t grow…

You won’t show up as your highest self.

And your highest self?
She’s not perfect.
She’s not the one who gets it right the first time, every time.
She’s the version of you who stays in the work.

She’s the woman who’s brave enough to get vulnerable.
Bold enough to admit when she’s stuck.
Soft enough to ask for help.
Strong enough to rise again.

Your People Are Watching

That little boy I rocked to sleep?
He’s going to need a whole lot of people rising to the top of their potential.

People who are emotionally intelligent.
Spiritually grounded.
Willing to live with integrity.
Willing to practice.

And your people—whether they’re thirty days old or thirty years deep in your life—they need that from you, too.

They need you healing.
They need you learning.
They need you growing…

Every—
Single—
Day—

Into your highest self.

Because leadership isn’t about titles or trophies.
It’s about alignment.

It’s about being someone worth following—because you know who you are, and you’re committed to becoming even more of her.

Not for approval.
Not for applause.
But because you understand that this one life?
It’s not a rehearsal.

And every soul you love, every life you touch, will be shaped by the example you set.

So here’s your call to lead:

Heal what hurts.
Learn what’s missing.
Grow into the version of you who can carry your calling with grace, grit, and generosity.

You don’t need to be perfect.
You don’t need to have it all figured out.
You just need to keep showing up.

The world doesn’t need more polished people.

It needs more whole ones.

And that starts with you.

 

 

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